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Buying Back Time: Reframe Priorities for Relationships Over the To-do List

A coworker recently vented, “I need more money to buy time with my family!”


As a former workaholic, I get it. I used to think working harder earned me quality time later. We think more money is the answer when our kids just want us — not stuff. Kids grow up now a…

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The Illusion of Busyness

Hey, ever find yourself knee-deep in "procrastivity"? You know, when you've got that looming deadline or task, but somehow end up organizing your sock drawer instead? Been there, done that.


If you haven’t heard of the word “procrastivity”, it is the term coined w…

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Taming the Pushmi-Pullyu: Finding Balance Amidst Competing Demands

In the classic children's book "The Story of Doctor Dolittle" by Hugh Lofting, there is a fantastical creature called the Pushmi-Pullyu. This remarkable beast has two identical heads at opposite ends of its body. No matter which direction one head wants to travel,…

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Hard-Won Wisdom: Reflections on Self-Care

In this blog post, we'll explore six hard-learned lessons that have shaped my journey toward self-acceptance and empowerment. From trusting your instincts to standing up for yourself and valuing your time, each lesson offers insights and reflections gleaned from d…

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From Glimmer to Guiding Light: My Calling Found Me

I close my eyes and drift back to 1975, sitting attentively in history class. I envision my younger self - gold-rimmed glasses, polyester knit pants, and polished shoes. As our teacher speaks about think tanks, something ignites within me. I envision people coming…

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Whimsy Sparks Perspective Shifts: Time to Reconsider

Indulge me for a moment. I've hit the big 6-0, and while it's a hefty number, let's not forget, I'll never be younger than I am right now. Now. Now.


But I digress.


Contemplating this milestone, and given that one of the most effective problem-solving methods inv…

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Finding Intentionality In Holiday Chaos

Raise your hand if the holiday season usually turns you into a stressed-out mess trying to juggle a million things while barely keeping your head above water! 🙋🏻‍♀️ Yeah, me too.


I don’t know about you, but in the past, as much as I loved counting my blessings d…

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The Tyranny of Time Warps & How A Shift in Perspective Can Change Your Life

BTW- I'm not talking sci-fi here. I'm talking about our warped misunderstanding of time's purpose and sharing some time truths to get our relationships with time back on track. 


Time - it marches relentlessly forward, indifferent to our desires. The hours tick by…

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Getting Satisfation with an Outlaw Brain

Did you know you have an outlaw living in your head that keeps you from seeing some of the good around you?


This outlaw is a notorious and habitual hijacker of your attention. ​My friend, coach, and colleague, Alan Brown, ​ introduced me to the concept of calling…

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Paying Attention to Our Attention

Quick Question: What if all we have to do to get more time from our day is to track it purposefully?

Laura Vanderkam’s book, 168 Hours: You Have More Time Than You Think, contends that every one of us has the same 168 hours each week, spending approximately 56 hou…

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Barbie and the Paradox of Competing Demands

I know I'm late to the party. Still, I had to jump on the Barbie Movie moment and share an unforgettable Barbie scene towards the movie's end about the Barbies' choices once Ken had returned from the real world where patriarchy ruled. It reminded me of my own conf…

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ENDING PROCRASTIVITY: How to Make Better Use of Your Precious Time

I was honored to be a part of the Side Hustles for Moms Summit 2023.


Click this link to see my presentation on ENDING PROCRASTIVITY: How to Use Your Precious Time Better.  


What is procrastination? Procrastination is the deliberate act of delaying, unnecessaril…

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Perfectionism: The Surprising Self-Destructive, Unattainable, and Addictive Trait

Brene Brown, a researcher, storyteller, and giver of the all-time best TED talk ever (in my opinion), is a personal hero and someone I consider my online BFF who has given the universe several notable books. I have read them all, listened to them all, and re-read …

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Ditching the Four-Letter Word- Busy


You and I live in a world that expects fast-paced, perfectly executed productivity and immediate results. Unfortunately, those expectations have pushed me to unsustainable workloads, quick (but weak) answers, and low-quality responses to demands. At the time, it…

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Clarity: The Gap Between What I Want and Productivity

I love my work as a coach collaborating with professional women about the barriers stopping them from living whole lives. So many communicate their lack of clarity and peace due to what can feel like unsustainable work in the number of hours needed and the impossi…

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Defining Productivity

"True productivity is satisfaction in a world where the work never ends. Excitement without exhaustion. Opportunity without overwhelming. To be on fire with passion and purpose, without burning out."

Grace Marshall, Productivity Ninja


Grace is known for bringing …

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How My Neighbor Cleaned My Fridge

You heard me; my neighbor came to my house so I could clean my fridge.

You may be wondering What incredibly persuasive skills I used to entice her to my house.

  • Is she my paid cleaning lady? I wish!
  • Do I have a deep secret about her that she doesn't want her husband…
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A Personal Coaching Journey: From Sceptic to Believer

Does coaching even work?

That was one of the questions asked the first time we met at a conference. Lollie is an example of someone I work with- intelligent, articulate, and wanting to shine but still trying to figure out how to make time for her goals and dreams.…

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When Go-to Strategies Are Done Gone

I was diagnosed at 48 with ADHD. But, unfortunately, my "go-to" strategies that had worked all my life failed me. The tools I developed in elementary school and perfected in college failed, as my son says, "epic." Those strategies that served me well were "work ha…

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From Overwhelmed to Understanding

In 2012, I felt like I had hit a wall. I had trouble keeping organized and was on an emotional roller coaster at work. I felt overwhelmed – I could not keep up with my job responsibilities.

At the time, I worked in a competitive environment where mistakes were not…

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Minding the Gap

In a recent podcast recorded by  Dr. John T. Walkup of Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry (January 2014), he chatted about the CDC’s latest findings on treatment and management of ADHD with Dr. Susan Visser.  She is a CDC expert and…

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Why I Believe ADHD Coaching Plans are Worth the Investment

Posted on April 11th, 2023


My entire life has been spent dealing with the effects of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), and as a result, I have firsthand experience with the difficulties that can arise when trying to control the symptoms of this neu…

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Top 10 Strategies for Staying Accountable With Personal Projects

Posted on April 10th, 2023


As a coach specializing in ADHD and accountability, I have worked with a large number of clients who struggle to remain accountable for their personal projects and to maintain their motivation. When I've worked on projects independently…

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You know what I find fascinating? It's our differences


~ especially those of us who can be a little off-center trying to function and find fulfillment in the mainstream world. This world values efficiency and productivity, which can require productivity techniques and hacks that some of us find 

too mundane and soul-crushing, if not impossible to follow.


For me, I've found I can't follow mainstream productivity tools and hacks. I've had to learn to drive my brain, use its quirks and creativity to feel seen, make contributions to the world, and enjoy both work and home.


I like working with smart people who are ready to dump conventional productivity techniques to learn their true personal productivity by understanding how to drive their brains and discover their unique strengths to redesign their days with systems that complement them.


Let's start exploring together!